Our dear friend Jeremy wrote this incredible obituary. I couldn't do it better in a million years.
I will remember many happy days sitting with you and Erica in your
garden under the walnut tree, trips along the IJssel stopping to look
at geese, pear trees and pigs and ponies, chess tournaments in Guernsey
and Ghent, the Kroller-Muller by bike, car and wheelchair, eating slips
at Urk, mussels in Joppe, a week in Ireland where I nearly died of
fright as you drove your enormous Peugeot through the streets of Sligo
seemingly oblivious to the fact that you were sharing the road with
other traffic, and a myriad of other moments. I never fully recovered
from the time when you took us to swim in a lake and you and your whole
family stripped naked and plunged in. (Margaret had nightmares for
weeks - only surpassed when you let her loose on Kitty, galloping
towards the German border with Michiel and Josef in pursuit.)
We loved breakfast at Gorssel. Watching the way you tackled a boiled
egg - for some reason you had to turn your chair at an angle to the
table, before cutting the top off the egg and showering it with salt.
Your stubborn refusal to buy a kettle. And we loved it too when you
opened the trap door in the kitchen floor and brought up cool bottles
of beer. Happy Days!
Most of all I will miss playing chess with
you. We were friends - but not when you were playing chess. Every game
was fought as if your life, reputation and manhood depended on it. I
loved it when - occasionally - I got you in a tight spot. There would
be dark mutterings; starting with "What is he doing?" and ending with
"I see what you are doing, I see, I see...".
I remember you in Ghent
staring at the board with your head in your hands - a study by Rodin in
utter dejection as you contemplated your position. Another frightening
moment: you hurtling down a cobbled hill in Ghent at breakneck speed
and throwing yourself head first onto the road. Dusting yourself down,
righting the bike and cycling off with no loss of dignity - as if this
was to be expected in any journey of more than 5 minutes.
I'm sorry I won't be able to share these moments again. You were loved, liked and admired by all of us...